Friday, January 24, 2014
Experiment
So ever since I started blogging I've been really struggling with it. I'm a very closed off person and struggle to communicate to the rest of the world what I'm thinking or feeling. I guess I'm mostly scared of being vulnerable to everyone else. That's a mainly a trust issue. But with this point of view I've realized that I'm also a very negative person. I'm very judgemental and I WANT TO CHANGE! So starting today I'm starting a 365 day experiment. The point of this experiment is for me to change to a positive, loving person. (It helps to blog about it because it holds me accountable) So here's what I'm going to do. Everyday I'm going to set aside some time and talk about my day, how it went and blah blah blah. But with that I'm going to make an effort to point out things that were positive that happened that day. So as my reader, please feel free to give me any pointers and tips. They will be very much appreciated.
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Hey good for you. Quite and undertaking, but you will be the better for it. Being free with your feelings and having an outlet is a very good thing. I admire you for being willing to take it out there. Being appreciative and grateful on a daily basis will help you succeed in all that you want in life. It will help you to better know who you are and what you want from life. I look forward to seeing the changes in you and your family. My advice is to go for it whole hearted and don't let anyone get you down about it. This is your space and your place. People are going to make comments, but it is the uninvited comments that may take you by surprise. Take the comments whether they seem negative or positive "with a grain of salt". (I had to learn that the hard way.) Good Luck on your new adventure it should prove to be very enlightening.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for your comment! This has been really daunting for me so your encouragement really helps!
DeleteGo for it and don't stop! Post every day if you can. But if you miss a day, don't be hard on yourself, there's always another day. It's the experience of trying and trying and trying that eventually teaches us what we need to know.
ReplyDeleteThanks Tyler! I appreciate it :)
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ReplyDeleteI definitely support positive change and I wish you well on this experiment. A couple of months ago I went through a similar thing so I thought I would offer some insights.
The first thing I wanted to talk about was, “being judgmental”. I learned when making a change you don’t want to focus on the behavior you want to focus on the perspective that drives the behavior. Often people who are judgmental are that way because they have a set of very ridge belief’s that they live by. It’s because the judgmental person doesn’t show much tolerance in their own life that they don’t show much tolerance in other people choices? So the perspective is you are not allowed to screw up and when you do I am sure you beat yourself up because you failed and the judgmental part of it shows up because of your own personal lack of tolerance. So you don’t have to change your beliefs in order to be less judgmental, what you have to do is change your approach. In short you have to exercise tolerance and humility in your own life and as you do you will grant others that same freedom. Allow you to screw up and make mistakes and still be forgiven and then allow yourself tolerance enough to do it all over again. After all that is what being human really is. One tool that has helped me was really trying to understand people as I seek to really get to know the individual first hand. You would be amazed what you find out when you really really try to get to know someone what happens.
The second is not being that open. You may not know this about me but not very many people in my life will really get to know the real me. I am really not that open either. At first I thought that may be a problem but I no longer think that. I think it is wise. First off I am in introvert so people drain my energy not add to it so it makes since that being by myself is where I am most comfortable. Yes that makes me distant but I am happy being that way. When going through this I questioned my own personal not being vulnerable to other people because I thought that was the root issue behind my distance. In my research I discover the life of the people who are like this (open and vulnerable) and found out that most have a hard time emotionally because they struggle with personal boundaries and people who they get close to hurt them all the time. So I think it is wise to be picky over who you choice to be open with and who you do not.
The last is positive verses negative. Personally I am a truth seeker meaning I try to find the perspective that best identifies with the truth. My attitude however is different. I try to have a positive attitude when faced with any situation but a positive attitude is different than the way you view things. It’s just the way you are going to approach situations in your life. Anyhow sorry for the book. Hope this helps.
It does! It's positive! Thanks for sharing!
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